As many of you know I was attending Purdue University before I became involved in the adult industry. I even continued classes for a while my first six months in the business however the traveling became extensive and the work was more demanding so I had to make a choice. I withdrew from school to pursue my career full throttle. In many of my interviews towards the beginning of my career I was asked if I would continue with school and if I would still pursue my dreams of becoming a doctor. In the beginning my answer was yes with out a doubt in my mind. However as time went on I began to have a change of heart. I would still like to finish my four year program and get my degree in Pre- Med Biology however I do not feel the need or want to go on to med school.
All of my life my dream was to graduate high school, go on to college and get my bachelors and then go on to med school. I figured around med school I would become engaged (to probably a fellow doctor in the works) and then married and after med school have children and work somewhere part time in the medical field once my children were at the age of attending school full days. Never was it my intention to not be home for my family when they needed me most.
My dreams have changed a bit. As I said I do not want to go on to med school after I have my degree. I imagine I would be able to find a decent career with just my four year degree if I ever needed to do so.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion however my opinion is this; it is VERY important to have a stay at home mother in the household. I am very old fashioned in that sense and believe full heartedly that it makes for a more functional loving household. When I become a wife and a mother that is not a job to be taken lightly. I am going to treat my husband with the up most respect and do everything for him that a wife should. When it comes to my children they will be so well taken care of and so loved.
When people hear me say I would like to be a stay at home mom I see eyebrows raise. I think they picture those spoiled rich housewives that sit on their ass all day getting manis and pedis and spending all of their husbands money while their children are with a nanny. Anyone that really knows me knows that I am not that person at all. I come from a very strong Catholic upbringing where I learned the value of a dollar and the importance of family and hard work. Being from a Ukrainian upbringing I learned how to make meals from scratch and to wash floors and my hands ands knees.
I know my place as a woman and that is to cook, clean do yard work, run errands, take the children to practices and to school and to be not only a disciplinarian to the children but to be loving and devoted to my family.
I heard on a radio show once that if someone paid someone to do all the work a good house wife does it equals an amazing amount of money you’d be paying out. Think about it. A personal cook, maid, dry cleaner, child care, lawn worker, personal assistant and not to mention the things that money cant buy such as love and devotion.
People see me as I am now, Bree Olson the Porn star with my tan and my nails and my blonde hair and nice dresses. What people don’t realize is that before this I was an olive complected brunette in jeans and a t shirt going to work in the mornings and classes in the evenings. I am just a normal woman. I want the American dream. I want a home and a husband and children just like any other Indiana girl.
Lets say for example I was married and had two kids (so far) a two year old and a five year old. I wake up in the morning make my kids and my husband breakfast. After breakfast I get the children dressed, I make my husband lunch kiss him goodbye as he goes to work and then I get my two year and five year old in the car to my five year old to kindergarten. After that I take my two year old with me to run errands such as grocery shopping and taking my husbands clothes to the dry cleaners. Then I come home and maybe vacuum and dust and do the dishes from breakfast. By this time its noon and time to pick up my five year old from kindergarten since they are half days. I get the kids back home put the two year old down for a nap help my five year old with homework and talk with them about their day, hang their drawings’ on the fridge. Give them a snack and after this my five year old wants to go outside and play and I start doing a little more housework like making the bed and doing some laundry when the two year old wake s back up from a nap. Now its time for lunch I call the five year old back in and I make lunch we eat. At this time the kids are playing around the house as I finish up a little more housework, maybe cleaning the bathrooms and straitening up. I go and play with the kids for a little bit maybe doing a puzzle together or going outside and them attempting to help me with the garden lol. Well the sun is setting and we know daddy will be home soon so we are back inside I am making dinner and setting the table. Daddy comes home we all eat together and then its family time. I give the kids a bath and get them ready for bed around eight or nine. I give my husband a massage and then maybe some loving we watch TV for a little bit or he goes up on the computer or whatever and then we are in bed and the same thing happens the next day.
Now I know days may vary and sometimes the husband comes home late or we all woke up late in the morning so we might have a cereal morning every once in a while but for the most part this is how the schedule will be. Now would any of you like to tell me when I had time to sit on my ass during all of that? Did you notice I didn’t even schedule myself a shower in all of that. I am sure I will remember when that day actually comes lol but that just goes to show you a perfect example of how I put my family before myself.
When I get done having all the kids I’m going to have and when they are all in school full days I am not at all against working while they are at school. But I will not let work get in the way of my family. I’m not going to have strangers raising my babies and I’m not going to make my family TV dinners for dinner because I am so tired from working all day. I’m not going to have a messy house because I worked all day and was to tired to clean it. I think my system is full proof. I don’t expect my husband to be a millionaire but I do expect him to have a good job to where I will be able to stay home. One of my duties as a housewife is to save money in every way we can. My kids may not have the most expensive clothes but they will look nice and presentable and I know how to watch for bargains at the super market and turn lights off in a room when nobody is in there. I know all of that sure beats paying for childcare and my husband and I eating out because we don’t have time to cook.
I hope I opened up some peoples eyes with this blog and helped people see that this women’s lib thing isn’t all its cracked up to be. I sometimes wonder to myself if more people had this type of system in these days how would the divorce rates be?
As I said…. This is all my opinion, either you like it or you don’t. Your ways not the wrong way but my way works for me.
Love, Bree
